Hate > Love

A couple of days ago, I found myself watching Scrubs on Netflix, and started to absolutely overflow with hate for the show itself. Keeping the date of the show in mind, I still gave no mercy to the lack of comedy. Ugh, I hate this. But, I still didn’t dare turn it off. Oh my goodness, this is so stupid. Of course he’s going to go for the hot girl. OF COURSE THE HOT GIRL IS THE SMART ONE. The hate continued until the first episode of the season ended.

 

Continue watching Episode 2? I clicked “yes.”

 

And behold… This is how I discovered that hate is so much better than love.

 

Do you ever notice the personal bond you create with someone when you both hate Adele and the Green Tea Frappuccino at Starbucks? I mean, sure, a bond is also created over the things you love (i.e. blond-haired, blue-eyed boys, high school football quarterbacks, and Audrey Hepburn’s style in Breakfast at Tiffany’s), but bonding over hate is so much more satisfying.

 

It is not completely heartless to mention that the stronger the hate, the closer the bond, is it? I proceeded to watch Episode 2 of Scrubs, and believe it or not, the hate grew. Oh, big deal, you try to convince someone to stop smoking. Can you say CLICHE? Since my day started out with hate, it proceeded to turn into a positively hateful day. My close friend came over shortly after my experimental Scrubs binge, and we decided to go to Starbucks for a quick, much needed fix.

 

“UGGGHHHHH!” I hear her say from the passenger’s seat, and glanced at her with worry. Is she in pain? “I HATE it when people post stupid comments on my Instagram pictures!”

 

Almost immediately, my hate-bulb sparked, and the bond grew like moss on rainforest rocks. Hate-bonding is the exact reflection of love-bonding mainly because hate (just like love) is the sharing of ideas and morals. Hatred can reveal a lot about a person, believe it or not.

 

I let out a girly “omgosh,” as we sat in the car though the long Starbucks drive through and elaborated on our hate-talk (which soon turned into love-bonding over Dave Franco. Yum!). This was almost as satisfying as the Lime Refresher I decided on (pretty smart choice for a scorching-hot, hateful, sweat-running-down-your-face Vegas day).

 

Even though studies have shown that the stronger the hate, the closer the bond, when should the line be drawn, and when is the hating supposed to stop? Is it okay to hate-bond over celebs? Yes, it may be. But, is is okay to hate-bond over a person? NEVER.

 

It is never okay to obtain personal satisfaction from someone else’s misery. For instance, the reason someone may be poorly dressed is because they may not be able to afford the latest Forever 21 boots, Juicy Couture scarf, and Miss Me jeans. As a matter of fact, 22% of families in America are living in poverty. That means that more than 16 million children in the United States are not able to afford the latest trends, and therefore do not deserve hate in any way, shape or form.

Fashion Police, the show on E! is a perfect example of hate-bonding gone wrong. We have the perfect mix of people in a circle–the Italian celeb gossip queen, Giuliana Rancic, the British purple-haired trend setter, Kelly Osbourne, the spunky, happy-go-lucky George Kotsiopoulos, and the fashion judge of all fashion judges, the one and only Joan Rivers.

 

If you’re unfamiliar with the show, it goes a little something like this: The team is shown a picture of a celebrity on the red carpet (or at any event, really), and they are all required to present an opinion of the person presented. Nine times out of ten, Rivers is the most harsh of all, and presents her blunt, over the top opinion of an ensemble. At the end of the show, each person is asked to pick their favorite look of the week, along with their least favorite.

 

Like I said before, this is total hate-bonding gone wrong. The designer of the outfit could be watching the show themselves (not that Gianni Versace would care that Joan Rivers is judgmental, but still).

 

Ultimately, hate-bonding could be a destructive activity, but like most things in life (makeup, gossip, sodium, and shopping), hate-bonding should be used in moderation.